By Diana Hernandez —

Are you currently dating someone and you are not sure if he/she is The One? There are definitely warning signs that you should be aware of that indicate that person is just not meant for you. I based the list on my opinion, friends and relationships I have seen in my life. These are pretty good reasons to dump the zero and get with a hero. 🙂

1. He doesn’t have a good relationship with his mother.

It is usually a bad sign when your boyfriend mistreats his mother. He most likely will treat you the way he treats her. He might lack respect for women in general and that is a huge red flag. There is always the exception that he had a lousy mother, but it is still not a reason to disrespect her. You might want to check out if he is also like that with his sister and grandmother basically the main women in his life. You don’t want a momma’s boy, but you do want a man who respects his mother and isn’t afraid to show how much he loves her.

2. He is possessive.

These guys are the worst! If he is telling you what to wear, who to hang out with, what career to choose, etc, then he is not for you. He is trying to control you and that is not right. Remember it is YOUR life not his.

3. Your friends/family don’t like him

Okay, this one can be tricky because there are usually one or two people who will always think you deserve better. People that love you want what is best for you so it is understandable. But, if you find that most of your friends and relatives do not like your boyfriend then maybe you should reevaluate your relationship. Listen to your loved ones!

4. He has no desire to be successful

Would your man rather be playing PS3 or watching TV instead of doing something productive with his life that will help him progress? It does not mean he can’t make time for Call of Duty, but he also needs to be making moves to improve his life. If he doesn’t why would you want to marry someone like that? Good men are successful in many areas and that is the kind of positive guy you need. Stud over dud.

5. He doesn’t seem to have any friends.

This says a lot about their character. If they can’t make friendships work then how do you expect the relationship to work? If they have several friends, colleagues and family it usually means they are easy to get along with and if they don’t then it speaks the opposite.

6. You can’t trust him.

This one is just common sense. If you can not tell whether he is lying or you are having doubts then dump him. If he has lost your trust and isn’t even trying to gain it back then he is not worth it. Find someone who is honest because that is one of the essential keys to a happy relationship.

7. You are working too hard.

If you notice you are the one trying the hardest to make him happy and he is not then it is time to let go. Every relationship has its challenges, but a good one will look at those challenges like little speed bumps they can get through together.

8. Mr. Temper- Tantrum

Waahhh!! Adult tantrums are not sexy at all. It would be great to catch your man on camera and replay it for him later so he can see how ignorant and immature he was acting. Moments like these are usually not captured on video, but they do stay in your head reminding you of a love going sour. You need a man not a child. Communication is the key to everything so if he can’t talk stuff out and would rather scream, pout and cry dump his ass.

9. Momma’s Boy

*Sigh* This one seems to be the case with a lot of men. Your man should love his mother unconditionally, but sometimes most need to cut the damn embilicord already! Sheesh! These men also expect from you what their mothers do for them. This is the kind of man that leaves cupboards open, clothes on the floor, and asking you “Where did I leave my_____?” Unless you do not mind being the caregiver I suggest you take control or get out of this relationship ASAP!

10. The Party Animal

The man is usually the life of the party. The only problem is that he is always partying! He will trade in his responsibilities for the night life. He is a kid and enjoys the hell out of it so do not try to change it you will most likely waste your time. If you are not like this guy then you will get tired of this relationship fast.

Men are not the only ones that have issues. If you know your girlfriend is not “the one” then I suggest you escape quickly because girls’ noses can sense a break up from a mile away and she will either cheat before you leave or suffocate you to death!